Hello my love..... what a day. I went
from one end of a the spectrum to the other end. I felt sad and
depressed and now I feel optimistic and loved. I just got
done reading your letter that you wrote me this afternoon. I
loved it. It was exactly what I needed from you. I have wanted that
letter from you for so long. I am sad that it took this experience to
get it from you but I think that it was one of the first times that I
have ever really felt the emotion in your words. That is huge for me
and you. I want you to know that I love you more than anything,
more than money, more than things, more than my time. I love you, I
always have even from the beginning dates when we first started to
hold on to each other, to the years of newly weds where we did not
have a clue what we were doing, to the struggles of bringing little
ones into the world, to the ups and downs of our financial life, even
through this battle of your eating disorder. I have learned to love
you more and deeper than ever before. I want you to tell me your
trials, I want to share them with you. Life is so lonely and tiring
when we are separate, not just physically like we are now, but also
mentally and emotionally. I feel like I can do anything when I have
your support. I want you to feel the same. I want you to know that no
matter what, my love for you will never go away. We will have
our fights and our arguments, our disagreements and difficulties, but
it will never change my love for you. We have a love that is eternal
in nature. After going through these past couple of
months, I have come to know more fully that we were meant to be
together. You see, this trial is not taking us apart, it is bringing
us so much closer. I was so happy today when we resolved our problem
by ourselves. I know we have a lot of work to do together in that
area, but the worst thoughts were rolling through my mind last night.
I was at the bottom of the pit, everything looked dreary no matter
which way I ran the situation in my mind. I thought that there could
be no good outcome and when I wrote that letter to you this morning,
I think you felt my emotions. When we sat in those two chairs, inches
away from each other, I saw emotions in you that I have not seen
before. When we stood those two paces apart from each other and the
therapist asked me to yell out words to you, I was not lying.
Beautiful. Resiliant. Sad. I saw a girl that was broken. But I saw a
girl that I was so in love with. You started to cry and I could not
help but to have the strongest feelings of love for you. I could see
the sorrow in your soul. We have both made bad decisions in the past
year, we have both said and done things that we probably should not
have. But seeing you standing there, I saw a girl who had
determination that very few people have. When we hugged after that, I
knew we were going to be fine. When you whispered to me that there
were no more secrets, I believed you. When we sat by each other
tonight on the couch, and I held you as close as I could under the
prying eyes of the nurse, I fell in love with you all over
again. I knew that we were going to be all right. That is what
two people who love each other do, they make up, forgive and love. I
am so happy that we went from tears to peace, without help from
others, in a few hours. That is exactly what I want when this process
is over. I want to cry, debate, argue and sorrow. Then I want to come
to terms, negotiate, forgive and move on with a single purpose and
goal and make up, tell each other how much we love one another
and then make out like it is the first time. That
is passion. That is love. Love is to be in bad
situations but to have the fortitude to make them good again. That
is what marriage is all about. That is what we are all about, we just
did not know how to do it all of these years. And now after having
one of the saddest moments of our life together, we worked through it
and that makes me so happy and gives me the reassurance that we are
going to get through this together. So thank you for being so
understanding, thank you for putting up with my intensity. Thank you
for being 'you' today. This is the Jane that I fell in love with
all those years ago. I care so much for you. Today was a good
day. It was a hard day. But we reached a milestone together, I think
our slate is wiped clean. I have no feelings of anger towards you,
just an immense amount of love. This is early but Happy Birthday.
There will be many more to come. I look forward to each one of them.
And, I truly do mean this..... I LOVE MY
GIRL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sunday, October 18, 2015
Thursday, October 8, 2015
Can I feel anymore sadness???
Jane,
What to say? I hit a new low last
night. I tell you this not to make you feel bad or guilty, I promised
you that I would be 100% honest, so I will. I have never cried like
that before. It took me hours to figure out why I was so sad. I think
that I can now attempt to put it into words, though words will not do
it justice. Yesterday was interesting for me. I was so excited to
come down and spend the week with with you. I have looked forward to
this since January 7, when I dropped you off. You are all that I
think of every minute of every day, from the moment I wake in the
morning, to the minute I drift off to sleep, and everything while I
dream. I love you so much, far more than you realize. As I drove
down, I had the most amazing thoughts and ideas, the most amazing
songs played on the radio describing exactly how I felt. When you
came around the corner and I was sitting there, my heart raced at
your sight. The dietician and the therapy was difficult for me to
process. I did not understand what you were saying. It was hard to
hear. But I did not know why. I was not quite sure what the thoughts
were about that were going through my mind. I loved hanging out with
you last night. I loved sitting on the couch with you and talking. I
loved looking at how beautiful you are. I loved that there was some
depth to out conversation. I loved that you were willing to be
vulnerable with me on the letting me read your journal. I can only
imagine how hard that was for you. So I left you, went and got
dinner, unsuccessfully tried to find you a birthday gift, and came
back to the hotel. I read your journal that you gave me to read. I
found the big secret. You, of course, knew what my reaction would be.
And you were right. But I am 100% sure that the reaction is different
that what you think. I can make more money. Yes, it is not easy, but
I know God will support me in whatever I need. I don't even care to
know much debt or what it is a this point. It will have to be dealt
with at the correct time. Only you know when that time is. Let me
know when you are ready. But the money is not what broke my heart. I
realized, last night for the first time, that we are so far apart on
so many levels. The deception and lies are at a depth that I was not
prepared for. I did not realize the intricate web of untruths was so
wide, from the dieting, use of diet pills and laxatives, midnight
exercising, and money. I think what my biggest fears are, at this
point, that there are still things that I do not know. I can't help
but to think that there are more deceptions from the last 14 years,
and previous to that, that I still do not know. I am not perfect. I
have many weaknesses. This not a 'holier than thou' letter. I am
fighting my own demons every day. But I have never lied to deceive
you, and that is why I am so hurt right now. It breaks me to realize
that my trust in you is extremely vulnerable right now. It breaks me
to know that lying to me came easily. I compound these feeling onto
what I felt in the counseling yesterday and the only verdict that I
can come to is that I have not been your number one for a long time.
I have slid down the ranks over the years and been replaced by other
things. You have been a great mother and you have taken great care of
me. But I realized yesterday, and last night, that you have withheld
so much from me and went to great lengths to deceive me. The fact
that I know nothing of these hidden diet pills, hidden exercising,
and hidden debt, all show me that I have, in a way, become your
enemy, and that is extremely difficult to realize, coming from the
one person that I have given my all to. I expect it from others
throughout my life, and I can deal with it. I never saw this coming
from you. It pains me to write these words. I never wanted to write a
letter like this to the girl I love most. I have always wanted your
love and affection more than anything else. I am not sure, at this
point, that I ever have fully gotten it. I know this is going to tear
you apart when you read it. I am sorry for that. But I refuse to not
tell you how I am feeling from here on out, as it is why we are where
we are right now, and I share a lot of the blame for that. So I don't
know what happens from here. We will talk today for sure. Know that I
have never felt more vulnerable than right now. Please know that I
love you so much and always have and will. My love for you is
stronger that a eating disorder, money, or anything else. It always
will be. The decisions you now make are going to have huge
ramifications on our life together and the lives of our children. I
need you to get rid of this eating disorder forever. I cannot deal
with the deceit it has brought. I need you, all of you, not just a
portion, but every part. I have and will, continue to to give you all
of me. I love you.
Thursday, October 1, 2015
A giant bull condom.... I know, wierd, you will just have to read it!
Woke up this morning, early. I
could not sleep. My throat was bugging me and I could not get
comfortable. I finally got up at 7 and got ready for the day. I
wanted to make the kids a breakfast feast so I made some sausage,
hash browns and eggs. We sat around and enjoyed our meal and planned
our day. The boys were dead set on riding their bikes to town about 7 miles away, it
was 26 degrees outside but they did not care. So we finished up
breakfast, the boys got their bags all packed, got the phone, made
the plans and got some money out of me. It was so cute to see
them plan and follow through on the plans. They left and I could just
see the sense of freedom and maturity bursting out of their small man
bodies. I had to work on the computer for a bit and then my oldest daughter
came in and begged me to play a game with her and the girls. So we
thought about it for a bit and then we decided to play Pictionary.
The girls loved it. They came up with their own picture to drawer, it
was hard, especially when baby girl was drawing. She would grab that
crayon and draw lines and circles like no one's business and then
expect us to know what it was. We played for about and hour and had
lots of kicks and giggles. I made lunch after that for the little
women and then I went outside and had some dog and horse therapy for
a bit. I love just going out and seeing and touching my horses, it
just make me feel happy. I don't really care for the boys dog
but I like George a lot. He always comes up to me and greets me and
gives me a good dog smile. The boys got home as I was watering the
chickens and we loaded up as they told me of their adventures and all
the places and people they saw. I think the little men are going to
need more freedom this summer, they are ready. They took care of each
other, found good food to eat, and made good memories. We drove out
to Jane's brother's house for some play time and dinner. It was
good to see them. There kids were excited to have us out and they all
just ran off to play with dolls or hunt rabbits and mice. Her brother
needed some help taking a bull back to his rancher friend so I helped him
get the trailer hooked on and then we loaded up the bull. We stopped
at vet to get the bull tested for STD's. Jane's brother had been
using him to impregnate his cows and now, before he put him back in
with rancher's cows, he had to be sure he was not carrying any
diseases. So we got the bull into the shoot and the doc put on a
plastic glove up to his arm and grabbed a hand full of cow KY jelly
and inserted his hand into the bull's anus. Now I have never seen
anything like this before, so I watched with great
interest as the doc was up to his armpit in cow butt. He massaged
something in there for a few minutes, not a pleasant job. He pulled
his arm out and then his assistant vet nurse, came out of the clinic
with what I concluded was a giant bull vibrating stimulator. She
inserted the giant electric vibrating thing into the bulls anus as
well and inserted it in a good 18". The doc got down on the
ground, took a measuring tape and measured from the bull's testicles to the
tip of the bull's penis and it measured 39 1/2". He then grabbed a cow
condom looking thing and got down to make the catch. The gal turned
on the giant stimulator and the bulls wiener went erect and then he
started to have a orgasm and he ejaculated a good portion of semen
that was caught in the giant cow condom, all while the bull mooed out
loud sound that sounded like a pain rather than a enjoyable experience.
haha, poor feller. With the prize in the bag, the giant stimulator was removed and the
doc went to do a sperm count and to see how good a bull he was. If he
had lots of fish, he goes to the field for a summer of lots of
ladies, if he had bad fish he would go to the slaughter house to be
fed to lots of ladies..... and guys too. The results came back and he
will spend the summer in the hills taking care of the cows and
spreading his genetics freely. It was very interesting to watch. You
take the sexual side out of it and just look at the biology of it, it
is amazing. It is amazing how the bodies of all living things have
all the ingredients needed to make more of their own kind and
populate this earth. The bull was in a onery mood after that so we
loaded him up and went and dropped him off at. And now I know
how the check a bull for STD's. Interesting, huh? We got back to the
house and we had chicken tacos and jello salad. The
kids had a good time playing and we left there around 8:30. Everyone is so good to us. Baby girl got out of the van
and was asleep before I could tuck her in. The kids are tired
tonight and ready for a new school week. I had a good day. I got
to spend a lot of time with my kids and they were enjoyable to be
around.
I talked to Jane while were are at her brothers'. and she sounded good. I hope she can phase this week. I just want to be able to take her out of the Center for a few hours and spend some time away from the giant observation windows. She is close, I am praying that I will happen. It will be good to spend time together this weekend. I am pooped, my voice in waning and my throat is sore. So I will now sleep and dream of happier days with my wife lying next to me. And... I love my girl!
I talked to Jane while were are at her brothers'. and she sounded good. I hope she can phase this week. I just want to be able to take her out of the Center for a few hours and spend some time away from the giant observation windows. She is close, I am praying that I will happen. It will be good to spend time together this weekend. I am pooped, my voice in waning and my throat is sore. So I will now sleep and dream of happier days with my wife lying next to me. And... I love my girl!
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