My love, that was quite the counseling session, huh? To be honest, I am scared.
I am scared of losing you again. I am scared of falling back down
into that abyss that we have been clawing our way out of for the last
two months. I am terrified that I am going to lose you again, but the
next time will be far worse. In each of those reasons, 'I' is the
prevalent word. Those are selfish thoughts because they have
everything to do with me, nothing to do with you. I have to now put
my trust into the process just like I have been telling you to do for
the last two weeks. I was glad to have the opportunity to share with
you my feelings about coming home and my worries and concerns.
This eating disorder put me in a terrible place emotionally, mentally
and physically. The emotions that I had were so raw, I had never had
them before. Feeling those emotions for the first time scared me and
caught me off guard in a way that I had never experienced. I did not
know that I loved you so much until I lost you. I did not know that I
hated the eating disorder so much until I lost you. That is such a
wide range of emotions expressed in two short sentences. I was in a
hell in December. I really thought that you were going to die in the
next couple of weeks of month. That is hard thing to come to grips
with as a husband to a woman that I adore. That is my worst
nightmare, to lose you, and I saw it happening right in front of me
and there was nothing I could do about it. Now that I have experience
those emotions, I know what they are. Like I said on the phone,
if there is a next time, those emotions will not be so intense. I am
all in on this experience. I am all in on getting you home feeling
better about yourself. I am all in with being with you in the months
to come and getting to know you better. I am afraid that my intensity
will not be as resilient if there is a next time. I know you are
going to have struggles and that we are going to have hard times. I
was really glad when your therapist was able to define my words into a more
specific fear, and that was that you will close yourself off from me
and that the dishonesty will return. She was correct, that is my
greatest fear, that you will try to fight this alone or give in to it
and leave me with deception. I will do whatever I can to help you not
fall back into those ways. I will try to be here for you when you
need me. I am all in on your recovery. I am not all in on going back
to our old ways. I know that you want to get better, we have all been
praying for you to get better. I was encouraged when you told us on
the phone today that you surrendered yourself to not knowing the time
frames. That made me happy. I am glad that you reached that point
last week, I think if you had not reached that by today, you
never would have because now we have any idea of the time frame of
the next few weeks. But now I want you to go a step further, and
maybe you are already there. I want you to surrender yourself to
recovery. I want you to not picture yourself at home, struggling with
the dinner that is front of you, or the pushups that you want to do.
I don't want you to picture yourself being embarrassed when you see
someone you know that probably is aware of why you were gone. I don't
want you to picture yourself being self conscious when someone says
you look great. What I do want you to picture is how great it is
going to feel when you drive down our gravel driveway after being
gone for almost three months and the feeling of excitedness and
relief at seeing the home we love. I want you to picture us sitting
around the dinner table talking and laughing about our day. I want you to feel the love of those
who truly care for you, those who have been praying non
stop and helping me so much, and when they see you and they want to
make a big deal about you, hug you and tell you that they missed you,
that you will feel good about that. I want you to picture the embrace
that we are going to have each day, knowing that we are back together
again and that you were saved from the grave. The eating disorder is
nothing to us in this new view, it is everything in the old us. It is
time to close that chapter, hard as it may be and as difficult
as it will feel, the page has to be turned. There is just too much
happiness to be enjoyed to let it take your thoughts, emotions and
love from you. When you return, it will be a celebration. We will be
happy, we will break out the sparkling cider and toast as a family
the miracles that we have received and been a part of the last two
months. I realize that you are quickly approaching the next phase in
this journey. One that is outside the Center. I realize how scary and
thrilling this will be for you. I just ask that you let me take the
path with you. Hard as it may be, let me go with you and
share in the journey. We are going to have hard times ahead, but they
don't have to be difficult ones. They can bring us closer together,
not further apart. Please be honest with me. Write it in your journal
a million times, that you will be honest with me, so when you
are having a hard day and you don't want to tell me, you can pick it
up and read in you book how much you did not want to fall back
into the old way. That is one reason I write to you every night, I
wanted to capture the emotion in my moment of trials so that I can
read these words again to get pulled back to where I need to be if I
get off course in the future. I love you so much, if this eating
disorder can go away, I know we will rise to a new level in our
relationship and love that we have never experienced. Lets take this
journey together, I will be here for you. You are my girl and always
will be. I love you.
You are amazing, sending you love and light to keep up your strength and positive thinking. I know your believe in your wife will help to through this terrible illness.
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Lung Cancer
H.P.V TYPE 1 TYPE 2 TYPE 3 AND TYPE 4. TYPE 5.
HIV,Arthritis,Amyotrophic Lateral Scoliosis,Fibromyalgia,Fluoroquinolone Toxicity
Cervical Cancer
Colo-rectal Cancer
Blood Cancer
SYPHILIS.
Diabetes
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Epilepsy